This class is coming to a close which is really sad for me because I have learned so much. This weeks, we have talked a lot about divorce and why people get divorced and if those reasons are valid. First we talked about some of the reasons why people receive a divorce in the first place.
Reasons for divorce:
1. Financial issues. After discussing this reason, we discovered that getting a divorce and then for the father to support 2 households is actually much more money than before. Some people may not think about his aspect of a divorce before hand.
2. The couples simply fell out of love. We, as a class, discussed that couples need to get married not only because they are in love, but for other reasons that will last long and be a foundation for hard times.
3. Couples have communication problems. People have used this excuse to cover the real reason they are having problems. Communication is a very important part of any relationship, but if they knew this was the problem, why didn't they fix it? People do not understand that it isn't communication that is the problem, rather it is perspective. Couples sometimes have trouble understanding their spouse's perspective or reasoning behind different actions or thoughts. Once this is understood, communication takes care of itself.
We also learned that sometimes when adults complain, it is their way of crying. We talked about it people blame their spouse, they will feel defensive. However, if they were to show their pain without any blame, their spouse will react with compassion. Being tender and sensitive is usually more effective than coming on strong and firm when trying to dissolve problems in relationships.It is important to remember that problems can be worked out. We need to be more patient with those we love and try to fight for the marriage before jumping into something that we will regret. Great things are worth fighting for!